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Matt McGorry Maker of feels & procurer of LOLs. Activist & intersectional feminist. Asher/#HowToGetAwayWithMurder Bennett/ #oitnb 📸 by @hfdavis

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  • Highly recommend following @ruralsurjnorcal for lots of great political memes like this first one
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Yesterday was MLK's birthday.  And Monday is MLK Day.  Perhaps you are white and wondering what this meme means? I would say it applies to white people of all genders. Unfortunately, MLK's legacy (that has been severely altered by the white retelling of history) has made him out to be some apolitical figure, like Santa Claus.  And too often, as white people, we use the limited understanding of his legacy to explicitly (or sometimes we just think it), tell Black people that they should be nicer to us while they are fighting their oppression.  We assume that MLK would have done it differently, and wouldn't have been so "mean" to us. 
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And we might even think, "if Black people weren't so sensitive about race/racism, then maybe I would really be an ally!" Or, "If I was alive when MLK was around, I really would've supported HIM!" But the truth is, allyship can not depend on how easy a marginalized group makes it for you.  If we REALLY and truly care about justice and equality, we will push forwards, continue learning and growing and trying to change the world so that racism and this huge wealth gaps doesn't exist.  Saying, or thinking, that Black people not making us comfortable is our barrier towards trying to be better allies, is an excuse.  It says that you value your comfort over equality.
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And for the love of god, can we as white people, PLEASE share some different quotes on Monday than about how "love drives out hate"? There are some in this post. Google Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and "capitalism," "socialism," "white people," "the white moderate" and read his letter from Birmingham Jail. Sharing the same quote that most of us do every year (I've done it before too!) is just a way of remaining safe, comfortable, and apolitical as this man was hated and murdered precisely because he WAS radical and political.
  • Highly recommend following @ruralsurjnorcal for lots of great political memes like this first one
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    Yesterday was MLK's birthday. And Monday is MLK Day. Perhaps you are white and wondering what this meme means? I would say it applies to white people of all genders. Unfortunately, MLK's legacy (that has been severely altered by the white retelling of history) has made him out to be some apolitical figure, like Santa Claus. And too often, as white people, we use the limited understanding of his legacy to explicitly (or sometimes we just think it), tell Black people that they should be nicer to us while they are fighting their oppression. We assume that MLK would have done it differently, and wouldn't have been so "mean" to us.
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    And we might even think, "if Black people weren't so sensitive about race/racism, then maybe I would really be an ally!" Or, "If I was alive when MLK was around, I really would've supported HIM!" But the truth is, allyship can not depend on how easy a marginalized group makes it for you. If we REALLY and truly care about justice and equality, we will push forwards, continue learning and growing and trying to change the world so that racism and this huge wealth gaps doesn't exist. Saying, or thinking, that Black people not making us comfortable is our barrier towards trying to be better allies, is an excuse. It says that you value your comfort over equality.
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    And for the love of god, can we as white people, PLEASE share some different quotes on Monday than about how "love drives out hate"? There are some in this post. Google Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and "capitalism," "socialism," "white people," "the white moderate" and read his letter from Birmingham Jail. Sharing the same quote that most of us do every year (I've done it before too!) is just a way of remaining safe, comfortable, and apolitical as this man was hated and murdered precisely because he WAS radical and political.
  • 13,895 139 16 January, 2019
  • Today, Los Angeles educators (@utlanow) are on strike fighting for the improvement of their public schools.
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The district has denied their demands for smaller class sizes, a larger staff and putting an end to “random” searches of students of color.
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Join the fight and give these students the future they deserve!
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aros-wearela.com
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#WeAreLa #UTLAStrong #ReclaimOurSchools
  • Today, Los Angeles educators (@utlanow) are on strike fighting for the improvement of their public schools.
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    The district has denied their demands for smaller class sizes, a larger staff and putting an end to “random” searches of students of color.
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    Join the fight and give these students the future they deserve!
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    aros-wearela.com
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    #WeAreLa #UTLAStrong #ReclaimOurSchools
  • 3,889 18 15 January, 2019
  • At the @museeorsay . I painted all of these for you, my fans, because I love you. I hope you like them as much as I enjoyed making them. I am by myself so I only have selfies. Please forgive me. Please accept these paintings that I painted as an apology. Even though I previously made them for you just because I love you. Can you also accept them as an apology too? I know that’s not how apologies work. Since I already gave it to you freely and willingly. Thank you for your consideration. Forgive me. Thanks again. I love you. Iwaslyingididntpaintthesesorry.
  • At the @museeorsay . I painted all of these for you, my fans, because I love you. I hope you like them as much as I enjoyed making them. I am by myself so I only have selfies. Please forgive me. Please accept these paintings that I painted as an apology. Even though I previously made them for you just because I love you. Can you also accept them as an apology too? I know that’s not how apologies work. Since I already gave it to you freely and willingly. Thank you for your consideration. Forgive me. Thanks again. I love you. Iwaslyingididntpaintthesesorry.
  • 20,032 225 14 January, 2019
  • Consistently working on this. It’s so deep how hard this is to do. Not long ago, I wouldn’t have even thought I had many needs or the need to be better at setting boundaries. But the more deeply I’ve gotten to know myself, the more I’ve realized how important this is for allowing me to live my best life. So often, I’ve felt overwhelmed because I haven’t felt capable of setting boundaries, or anxious that I wouldn’t be able to set boundaries about something in the future, or guilty for even needing to set them. But that’s no way to live. We all deserve to express our boundaries and have people in our lives who care enough about us to respect them.
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Repost from @lost_nowhere - This is what healthy boundaries feels like! Do you have any more to add?? @lost_nowhere #lostnowhere
  • Consistently working on this. It’s so deep how hard this is to do. Not long ago, I wouldn’t have even thought I had many needs or the need to be better at setting boundaries. But the more deeply I’ve gotten to know myself, the more I’ve realized how important this is for allowing me to live my best life. So often, I’ve felt overwhelmed because I haven’t felt capable of setting boundaries, or anxious that I wouldn’t be able to set boundaries about something in the future, or guilty for even needing to set them. But that’s no way to live. We all deserve to express our boundaries and have people in our lives who care enough about us to respect them.
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    Repost from @lost_nowhere - This is what healthy boundaries feels like! Do you have any more to add?? @lost_nowhere #lostnowhere
  • 49,866 589 13 January, 2019
  • Thank you for sending me this @dahliaseed 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
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"For the first time in its 127-year history, the American Psychological Association has issued guidelines to help psychologists specifically address the issues of men and boys — and the document features a warning.
“Traditional masculinity ideology has been shown to limit males’ psychological development, constrain their behavior, result in gender role strain and gender role conflict and negatively influence mental health and physical health,” the report warns.

The new “Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Boys and Men” defines “masculinity ideology” as “a particular constellation of standards that have held sway over large segments of the population, including: anti-femininity, violence, adventure, risk, achievement, and eschewal of the appearance of weakness.” The report links this ideology to homophobia, bullying, sexual harassment, and a series of stark statistics: Men commit approximately 90 percent of all homicides in the U.S., they are far more likely than women to be arrested and charged with intimate partner violence in the U.S., and they are four times more likely than women to die of suicide worldwide.

The guidelines for psychologists outlined in the report include encouraging them to "recognize that masculinities are constructed based on social, cultural, and contextual norms"; "understand the impact of power, privilege, and sexism on the development of boys and men and on their relationships with others"; and "reduce the high rates of problems boys and men face and act out in their lives such as aggression, violence, substance abuse, and suicide." APA psychologist Jared Skillings said parents can play a part, too. He recommended they let their boys know, “It’s OK to not be OK all the time.”'
--Tim Fitzsimons, @nbcnews

#toxicmasculinity #masculinity #men #boys #psychology #sexism #metoo #timesup #consciousparenting #raisingboys #feminist #maleprivilege #gender #genderroles
  • Thank you for sending me this @dahliaseed 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
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    Repost from @theconsciouskid
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    "For the first time in its 127-year history, the American Psychological Association has issued guidelines to help psychologists specifically address the issues of men and boys — and the document features a warning.
    “Traditional masculinity ideology has been shown to limit males’ psychological development, constrain their behavior, result in gender role strain and gender role conflict and negatively influence mental health and physical health,” the report warns.

    The new “Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Boys and Men” defines “masculinity ideology” as “a particular constellation of standards that have held sway over large segments of the population, including: anti-femininity, violence, adventure, risk, achievement, and eschewal of the appearance of weakness.” The report links this ideology to homophobia, bullying, sexual harassment, and a series of stark statistics: Men commit approximately 90 percent of all homicides in the U.S., they are far more likely than women to be arrested and charged with intimate partner violence in the U.S., and they are four times more likely than women to die of suicide worldwide.

    The guidelines for psychologists outlined in the report include encouraging them to "recognize that masculinities are constructed based on social, cultural, and contextual norms"; "understand the impact of power, privilege, and sexism on the development of boys and men and on their relationships with others"; and "reduce the high rates of problems boys and men face and act out in their lives such as aggression, violence, substance abuse, and suicide." APA psychologist Jared Skillings said parents can play a part, too. He recommended they let their boys know, “It’s OK to not be OK all the time.”'
    --Tim Fitzsimons, @nbcnews

    #toxicmasculinity #masculinity #men #boys #psychology #sexism #metoo #timesup #consciousparenting #raisingboys #feminist #maleprivilege #gender #genderroles
  • 50,453 527 12 January, 2019
  • I’m here now.
  • I’m here now.
  • 33,364 695 11 January, 2019
  • “The Next American Revolution: Sustainable Activism For The Twentieth-Century” by Grace Lee Boggs with Scott Kurashige
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I was thrilled to have this book be my first introduction to the movement leader and activist, Grace Lee Boggs. Having written this book at ninety five years old(!!!!), she offers immense insight into movements of the past and how we must adapt to create the world that we all so desperately need. She makes the case for hope and shows examples of the work being done in communities throughout the country, like in Detroit (with urban agriculture), that we must learn from order to thrive and survive. Challenging some pretty widely held beliefs about how revolution should happen, this book definitely got me thinking. 
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My Booklist:
bit.ly/mcgread (link in bio)
  • “The Next American Revolution: Sustainable Activism For The Twentieth-Century” by Grace Lee Boggs with Scott Kurashige
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    I was thrilled to have this book be my first introduction to the movement leader and activist, Grace Lee Boggs. Having written this book at ninety five years old(!!!!), she offers immense insight into movements of the past and how we must adapt to create the world that we all so desperately need. She makes the case for hope and shows examples of the work being done in communities throughout the country, like in Detroit (with urban agriculture), that we must learn from order to thrive and survive. Challenging some pretty widely held beliefs about how revolution should happen, this book definitely got me thinking.
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    My Booklist:
    bit.ly/mcgread (link in bio)
  • 8,935 152 10 January, 2019
  • Iz me. 🤓
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    Repost @danasuchow
  • 115,009 2,225 9 January, 2019
  • "Man Up: Reimagining Modern Manhood" by Carlos Andrés Gómez @carlosaglive
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I really appreciate the depth of vulnerability and self-reflection in Carlos' book.  Both around his experiences as a man and specifically as a Latinx man. He grapples with his experiences being discriminated against based on his ethnicity while also understanding the privilege that he has due being light-skinned and at times, passing for being white. I found his experiences of being raised as a boy/man were similar to many of my own, as well as many of the men that I know.  When I first began to learn and speak about feminism a number of years ago, I only saw it as learning about the sexism that affected women (certainly not even considering non-binary people). I saw it as something that I was doing for *other people* simply because it was the right thing to do. 
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It wasn’t until later that I realized the way that this same system of patriarchy has held me hostage as well.  The lives of men are often so constricted by these deeply entrenched forces of what it means to be "a real man," that most of us barely even notice the harm that it causes us.  It begins when we are children and is so ever-present that it becomes completely normalized before we are old enough to even consider it.  We are taught not to be vulnerable...so we are unable to process and understand our emotions and shame in ways that are so critical to us being healthy and happy human beings.  We are taught to dehumanize women in ways that prevent us from ever fully being in integrity. This is a deep soul-wound that is inflicted upon our hearts and souls. I now know that dismantling patriarchy is essential not only for the liberation of those that are oppressed based on their gender, but for cisgender men as well. We must break free of our allegiance to this oppressive system. 
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My Booklist:
bit.ly/mcgread (link in bio)
  • "Man Up: Reimagining Modern Manhood" by Carlos Andrés Gómez @carlosaglive
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    I really appreciate the depth of vulnerability and self-reflection in Carlos' book.  Both around his experiences as a man and specifically as a Latinx man. He grapples with his experiences being discriminated against based on his ethnicity while also understanding the privilege that he has due being light-skinned and at times, passing for being white. I found his experiences of being raised as a boy/man were similar to many of my own, as well as many of the men that I know.  When I first began to learn and speak about feminism a number of years ago, I only saw it as learning about the sexism that affected women (certainly not even considering non-binary people). I saw it as something that I was doing for *other people* simply because it was the right thing to do. 
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    It wasn’t until later that I realized the way that this same system of patriarchy has held me hostage as well.  The lives of men are often so constricted by these deeply entrenched forces of what it means to be "a real man," that most of us barely even notice the harm that it causes us.  It begins when we are children and is so ever-present that it becomes completely normalized before we are old enough to even consider it.  We are taught not to be vulnerable...so we are unable to process and understand our emotions and shame in ways that are so critical to us being healthy and happy human beings.  We are taught to dehumanize women in ways that prevent us from ever fully being in integrity. This is a deep soul-wound that is inflicted upon our hearts and souls. I now know that dismantling patriarchy is essential not only for the liberation of those that are oppressed based on their gender, but for cisgender men as well. We must break free of our allegiance to this oppressive system.

    My Booklist:
    bit.ly/mcgread (link in bio)
  • 30,250 376 4 January, 2019