🖤I am not a fancy gal. Honestly, I feel like I’m one of those people that even when they’re “cleaned up” still looks kind of messy. I have a hippie heart & a love for grunge: somewhere the two styles merge. I’m not sure I look like the stereotypical mystical woman, but I’m not sure what that’s supposed to look like anyway. 🤔😂 SO— for today’s #realmeunfiltered I’m showing you an accurate depiction of what my ideal “look” is (& ideal weather— I MISS THE SUMMER!) ❂
Today’s question has everything to do with style🌬🌬 WHAT IS YOUR GO-TO LOOK? 💠 Mine— a pair of Birkenstock’s with cut off denim shorts & some kind of black band tee or tank top. A couple necklaces and lip gloss. Not much for make-up bc I like to sweat under the sun. &— there’s also something to be said about a good hat. I’m definitely a hat gal. ❂
We’re keeping it simple today! And I’d love if you played along! Post an unfiltered photo of you in the wiLd, answer today’s question & tag your post with #realmeunfiltered ! Feel free to tag me in your pic so I see it! 🖤
Be well my loves!
Tate Lates Panel: Frances Morris, director of Tate Modern in conversation with Chidera Eggerue (aka The Slumflower) founder of the #saggyboobsmatter movement and psychoterapist Susie Orbach, author of "Bodies"
It doesn’t cost anything to be nice to people... and if for whatever reason you don’t have anything nice to say, keeping your mouth shut is free too😶 I ACTUALLY had a follower write me and say “you workout all the time and haven’t made any progress😂😂😂” and I was literally like what in the world? I didn’t go cry in a corner, I didn’t skip lunch, and I didn’t stare in the mirror and pick myself apart. I LAUGHED. Want to talk about progress? Look how easily I brushed off that rude message. All it did was show me that he clearly had issues. Progress is such a huge word.
I have made progress.
I quit hating myself👏🏽 I’ve quit feeling like I needed to puke when I ate something “bad” for me👏🏽
I’ve made soooo much progress in the gym from being confident enough to help others to just being able to walk into a gym without feeling ashamed👏🏽 I’ve learned so much on my fitness journey and it doesn’t stop here, it won’t ever stop.
Most of all, I learned I’m a f***ing human. I’ll fall off, I’ll have a bad day. Sometimes things just happen. I was over 200 pounds and I lost 65 pounds and was a size 5, and then life happened. School took over, work took over, heartache took over, and me spreading myself too thin and trying to take care of everyone around me took over and I gained 25 pounds in the last year. SO WHAT. Shit happens, life happens. But would I say I haven’t made any progress? NOPE. I’m stronger, mentally, psychically and emotionally than I’ve been in a long time and I’ll be damned if some random follower thinks he can be rude to me and hurt my feelings. That boat sailed🛶 And it wasn’t even a nice boat, it was a tiny little ugly green boat that I never should’ve allowed myself to be on😂 (haha because of the emoji, get it) but REALLY. I’m not that person anymore and I don’t want any of you to be either. Don’t let people’s unsolicited opinion of you make you sad. Take 5 minutes to be sad for them because they can’t deal with their own issues and decide to take it out on someone else. THEN, I want you to get up, and do what makes you happy. Serve yourself girl👏🏽
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Putting it into practice:
Intentions are meant to be very personal to you, your purpose, your values and how you desire to navigate the world around you. Therefore, there really is no wrong intention. However, there are MORE empowering and LESS empowering ways to structure an intention. Here are some things to keep in mind so you can avoid the latter and set an empowering intention:
1. Begin with “I intend…” or “My intention is to…
2. Focus less on quantity or a numeric goal. Example: “My intention is to make more time to read.” And not “I intend to read 52 books this year.” This removes pressure and any possible negative self talk if you do not reach whatever number you set.
3. Focus on what you want and not on what you don’t want. Ex: “I intend to see beauty in everything, everywhere I go and in whomever I’m with.” And not “I intend to not be a negative and pessimistic person.” You want to make sure you are using positive and affirming words. And also avoiding words like “always, never, must."
4. Start simple with just a daily intention and set a different one every morning.
5. Allow your actions to match your intentions. If your daily intention is to approach your current situation with gratitude then start a gratitude journal where you write what you are grateful for everyday.
6. Repeat your intention often! Repeat it aloud, in your head or write it down multiple times a day.
Check out the @psych_today article entitled “Ditch Resolutions; Make Intentions Instead” for more science behind intention setting. #resourcin
✨Share one of your intentions below!