One truism i've personaly found is kids will not do what you say, tell them to, or listen to you. They will though do what they see you do. The leason I think is you can't teach kids respect, values, morals, integrity ect. All you can really do is show them and hope they learn it for themself. I guess values are as much something you are as something you do. You cannot tell anyone to be anything, only point them in the right direction.